Family Ties – What Love and Support Can Do to Your Kids
Remember a time you were sad about something and you felt the hand of your parent on your back and hear them say something like “you have us and we’ll be with you every step of the way.” Such moments come with calmness, tranquility and renewed strength all because of the love and support of your parents – the power of family ties.
I bet you would want your kid(s) to grow up with such beautiful experience and appreciate its existence in your family.
It might be a want for you as a parent, you really want that strong connection in your home but it’s actually more of a need to them. Kids need love and support because their lives revolve around the family. The readiness of each member of the family to willingly sacrifice all they have for the happiness of each other affects kids in a number of ways.
It determines kids’ level of confidence. There are different thoughts regarding how children become confident of themselves. Some will argue it’s their accomplishments that make them confident. Regardless of what you might think, it’s natural for you as a parent to want to instill confidence in them right from a young age.
But you won’t open their mind and insert it there. I get it. It starts with the connection you share as a family.
The guidance to take up any task, the encouragement on every failure, the cheer for every success and the love without condition will make them believe “I can do it.” This increases their level of confidence. What gives kids the impetus to try new things might be a result of what has been successfully done but what made them try it at first is your love and support.
It nurtures kids’ personality. No need to seek for an expert opinion before acknowledging that children are different in certain ways based on their personalities. While personality development is mostly attributed to genetic and environmental factors, the kind of the feedback a child gets from their family means a lot.
The kind of connection we share with someone often influence the interpretation we give their feedbacks. Right?
The encouragement to share thoughts, feelings, ideas, problems, and receive feedback in a non-judgmental manner will put the excesses of their personality into check. Thereby, giving room to nurture their attitude and approach to life. This kind of personality development primarily grows from a place of love and support.
It develops kids’ emotional intelligence (EI). The kind of conversations we’re used to when talking about children’s intelligence are mostly academic excellence and IQ development. Now, we talk about emotional intelligence. It’s interesting to know that how kids manage their feelings, express their emotions, affect their way of life.
I believe you must have noticed basic reactions when they’re disappointed or annoyed. EI and reactions are intertwined.
The validation of their feeling, acknowledgement of their thoughts, understanding of their actions and show of empathy will help kids realize “I don’t need to yell; when I say/show how I feel, my family understands.” Thus, making them express and manage their feelings and respect the feeling of others. This emotional give and take only thrives in love and support.
It refines kids’ communication skills: Yes, refine! As a newborn, we all cried when it’s time to suckle or eat. That’s our way of communication. As such, we’ve developed means of communication right from when we’re born. But for the sake of effective communication, kids’ communication skills have to be refined.
If you’re thinking they will definitely catch up, it’s fine. You just need to remember it starts with the ties you share.
The kind of conversations you have, connection you share, atmosphere of your home, attention you give will determine the effort kids put into understanding the intention and emotion behind what they hear and their ability to clearly convey a message. All of these put together come from a place of love and support which help the kids develop effective communication skills.
The commitment to give your kids the best in possible ways is beautiful. Knowing the value of family ties and how love and support can help kids is awesome. However, putting your commitment and knowledge to work is the real deal. At the end, it’ll give the kids the needed motivation to be a better person.