Join us as we give a warm welcome to Michael Orioha popularly known as “Angel” by friends and family as he loves being called.
Ten year old Angel Michael was born in Houston, Texas but currently resides in Scotland, UK.
He is 4feet 7inches tall.
Angel Michael is an aspiring brand rep and kid model. He has been busy with auditions and open to opportunities in Scotland, London and the United States. Michael looks forward to modeling for top brands all around the world.
Michael’s favorite color is blue.
His most shopped stores and brands are Debenhams, House of Frasers and John Lewis.
Angel has a lot of things he enjoys doing. He is one busy bee.
His favorite activities are coding, singing in his school choir, playing tennis and rugby, swimming, jumping, running, playing the piano and guitar to mention a few.
His favorite TV show is the X-factor.
Michael’s favorite movie is Star wars. He likes the character “Finn” the most. Michael likes Finn because he thinks Finn is a hero, he also likes Finn because of his costume especially the armour.
Michael’s favorite meal is fried plantain.
For an all expense paid trip, Michael would love to visit the United states, Disney Florida to be precise. Even though he was born here in the states, Michael said he hasn’t visited since he’s become aware of himself and he would love to do so.
Michael hopes to work as an artificial intelligence developer at MIT some day, he then hopes to study law to enable him patent his discoveries!
Go Michael! Never stop dreaming BIG.
Thanks for gracing our blog and sharing a little about yourself with us.
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Our special Rubies & Potters guest on FamilyRubies today is no other than the multitalented Adesuwa Iluobe
Rubies & Potters is a section on our blog where we bring to you great minds doing great things!
We’re taking time out to celebrate them and showcase them to the world in our own beautiful way.
Join this train, let’s do this together.
Good day Adesuwa, we’re very excited to introduce you to our wonderful readers. Please tell us where you are originally from and where you currently reside
Good day readers, my name is Adesuwa Iluobe . I am from Edo state in Nigeria. I currently reside in the capital city of Abuja.
Can you share your educational history with us?
Oh yes, I started my education at Dammyville Kindergarten school Surulere, Lagos. Then I proceeded to Fountain Nursery and Primary School Adelabu Surulere. I had my secondary school education at Federal Government Girls’ College Benin City and then studied Law at the University of Abuja. I went to the Nigerian Law School, Abuja Campus and was called to the prestigious Nigerian Bar on October 5, 2011. I became a Chartered Secretary and Administrator in April 2015.
What do you do for a living?
While building a career as a HR personnel and Administrator, I am a writer and editor who loves fiction and satires. I founded Satayaa Africa, a community that helps writers and readers succeed. You can follow our activities @satayaafrica on Instagram, Facebook and twitter or via our website – www. satayaa.com. I also recently launched my first book – The Farm. In addition to these, I am a fashion designer, I am just constantly birthing new ideas and assisting businesses in strategizing.
So why Law initially?
It was my dream to study English and Literature but did not end up doing that. At the time I had to choose, there was a boom that favored professional courses like Law, Accounting, Medicine etc.. So I was advised to study Law. However, times have changed and the focus is largely not on what you studied but on the person and how much he or she is willing to do to achieve a goal. I do not regret studying Law though. It opened my mind to a lot of things and helps my thought process to make informed decisions.
Tell us about your first book “The Farm” – “The Farm” is a collection of five fictional short stories. These stories are metaphors for Nigeria and her dynamic experiences. The lead story is about Moremi, a young girl flung into unfamiliar world that is highly expectant of her. Amidst fatal changes, bizarre alliances, quest for wealth and love, she finds an unlikely friend in Ugonna. With each choice they make, their lives unfolds before them until they stumble upon a shattering revelation that unsettles what little balance there is at the Farm.
Where can we get this book:You can get them online at:
Patabah Book store Adeniran Ogunsanya Mall, Surulere, Lagos
Salamander’s café Wuse 2, Abuja
Book sellers LTD City Plaza, Area 10 Abuja
Kizito Book shop, Area 1 Abuja
When did you start writing and why?
I fell in love with Literature in my childhood courtesy of my parents, and it has stuck since. My dad bought me books as gifts 95% of the time and Mum had boxes of novels and books – Pacesetters and so on. By the time I was six years old I was reading Enid Blyton’s books, Malory towers, St Clares. Books, books, books, that’s all I was about. I would do my assignments at school, so I could read from the time mum came to pick us up in the car till late at night. I remember Yvonne Ifode, my Primary two class mate, she used to lend me these books, so I read them and return the next day. Reading was a huge part of my childhood, no regrets. I graduated to drawing comics (yes! I can draw quite well) and writing stories with short chapters, I would draw over 20leaves of comics with dialogues and then give my school mates to read , they almost never returned them, if only I knew that those were priceless works, I would not have let them go that easily. I did this even while in the university, but stopped as soon as I owned a laptop. This is when I started writing.
What would you consider the hardest thing about writing?
It is easy to envision yourself as a writer, but can be challenging to shelf procrastination and self doubt and get down to write.
Adesuwa, if you could be a character in a novel, who would you be and why?
I have never thought of this. I would be Portia in Merchant of Venice. I love her for her strength and wisdom. Sorry its not a novel but a play. LOL
If your life was a book, what would the title be?
Tell us about your fashion designing skills:
I had difficulty in expressing what I wanted to designers, so I would have something in mind but something else would get sewn. This used to be really painful considering the efforts made to draw and describe designs. It later occurred to me that I could learn to make my clothes. So a week after I got called to bar (also after seeing how fast allowee went i.e allowance from NYSC) I enrolled into Fashion School for two reasons – 1. To learn to make my clothes 2. To acquire a skill through which I could make money.
What future do you see in Fashion designing for you?
Well, I’m reviewing this aspect of my life just so I am more focused.
You are multi-talented Adesuwa, don’t you think so?
Hmm. I am yet to believe I am multi talented, this may be an undoing. I love learning. I learn everyday. I also love to explore new things. Fun fact – I do not think humans are created to do one thing all their lives. God who created us is always inventing, loves to have fun and explore; just look at how beautiful the world is – mixture of colors, different races, animals, humans in different shapes and sizes. I nurse the thought that at different phases of my life I could be doing different things. The only thing that has been constant is the passion to writing. Even my style of writing has changed over time. I am able to cook (I love cooking a lot. Not many people know this) I believe cooking is art. Infact if I get bored with anything it would never be writing and cooking. I learned to sew in 2011 immediately after I got called to Bar and now enjoy it a lot. I read a lot (but no I don’t believe I am a geek. I am too seriously serious for that). I think I am tech savvy too, always learning to use different apps to make my life and work easier. I really love to mentor and encourage people especially youth. Another thing I love to do is to ideate. I help small businesses think through strategies, I am able to assist to plan activities and creative ways to push businesses forward. Strangely, studying law helped I have advised a lot of people on what they could do and it has worked. I am nursing two more skills I plan to acquire soonest. Sometimes I don’t even believe myself.
Tell us your most memorable day so far
The day I launched my book – The Farm
What advice do you have for aspiring entrepreneurs/writers
There is never going to be a perfect time to go after your dreams. Give your dreams time , hard work and consistency, this will birth growth in time. Do not compare with others, yes learn from them and do what rocks your boat. The world awaits you.
Writers, there is nothing like a perfect story or ideal time to write. Do not die with your stories, write them and share. If you need constructive reviews you can send mails to firstname.lastname@example.org
How have you coped with difficult people in your journey so far?
I keep my goals for relating with them in focus and try to be nice.
What is your favorite food?
I love plantain to a fault, whether boiled, fried or roasted. #defendersoftheplantaingalaxy
Tell us about the recently launched Sataya project
Yes, I and some other writers put together a hub for writers and readers called Satayaa. We made a debut with a writer’s retreat that held in Abuja in September 2017. Sataya Africa is a community that helps writers and readers succeed. You can follow our activities via @satayaafrica on Instagram.
You are very passionate about Nigeria, what fuels this burden?
I cannot explain my love for Nigeria, but it runs deep. The more we cry over our limitations, I see opportunities that are waiting to be tapped. Everything we moan about – disunity, diversity, corruption and so on have tremendous opportunities on the flip side. I am very hopeful that Nigeria will be better soonest.
Can you describe the Nigerian political system in one word?
Do you have any political ambition?
Yes. I dream of being a voice to be reckoned with in Nigeria’s political sphere, participate in the senate and be President. Big dreams! You go girl
A lot of young Nigerians have lost faith in the country, what advice do you have for the Nigerian Youth?
No one will help Nigeria if we do not rise up to help her. Our roots will always be traced back to this great country so there is no hiding place. In our actions and deeds let us help make Nigeria great again. Nigeria’s problem is her people, which is why we must make things right. Nigeria is our country. Nigeria is our home.
For an all-expense paid trip, which country would you like to visit?
While looking through my office drawer in search of a wite out tape, I stumbled on some of my old jotters that had work related jottings. It was interesting to see how much knowledge and understanding I’ve acquired on my current job just like every other job I’ve done in the past. Above all, I became more appreciative of the process of learning and how every word, phrase, acronym and sentence I wrote down in my jotters without any major understanding back then all now make perfect sense.
Most of these work related scribbling were things I barely understood when I wrote them down, usually during trainings or meetings. There were times I wondered how the notes I took from a meeting correlated in anyway to what I was hired for. There were times of frustration during the learning curve which my jotter clearly exposed.
However, several months down the line, looking through these jotters, I can tell how every word and phrase I have scribbled in the past relate to my work and the organization at large. I can easily and accurately group my jotters and its content under a unique topic, a job description or project. I now know several job related acronyms, their meanings, with an in-depth understanding. These fragments now make sense.
This is exactly how life plays out in this journey, we’re born, we find ourselves in a family, we go to a school (either chosen or imposed), we change jobs, we relocate or stay put in certain places, we meet people, we gain friends, we gain enemies, we learn new things, we experience true love, some experience the other, there are times we make good decisions, there are times we make mistakes, sometimes we experience delays, other times things happen while we are not even ready…
As this life events take place, we can become confused, taking frequent pauses and wondering if our lives and its events make any sense at all. Years down the line, we look back and finally the pieces start to add up. The reason why some things had to happen when they did and how they did, the reason why we had to be in certain places at certain times, the reason why we met some great people and some not so great people, the reason we loved and the reason we were hurt, the reason we are where we currently are, and why we are not where we wish to be.
Some day, sooner or later life’s fragments will all come together and eventually make perfect sense just like the ones in my old jotter. Until then, take it easy on yourself, embrace the process and watch the fragments all come together to form a whole.Yes, the fragments will soon become a whole!
It is common to see the phrase “possesses leadership qualities”, “team player” and the likes when you go through job seekers or current employees’ resumes/curriculum vitae. However, in over ten years of working with various organizations in business, academic and religious settings, the skill many of us need to develop and master is “FOLLOWERSHIP”. It is costing a lot of groups and organizations.
This is the second part of an article I titled 10 ways to stay happy. Incase you missed part 1, you can read via this link “Part 1”. I started off part 1 talking about a book authors Bernard Berkowitz and Mildred Newman wrote titled “How to be your own best friend”. In that book, they concluded that as humans, we need to choose to learn how to be happy just the same way we choose to learn a new language or a new habit. Simply put, the choice to stay happy is a personal decision we all have to make.
Earlier in point 1, we talked about “loving yourself and expressing it”. I went on to give us five (5) different ways we can show love to our own self. Below are the remaining nine (9) points I believe are practical ways to stay happy. I hope you enjoy reading and remember to share your own way of staying happy in the comment section.
2. Give more: The more you give in life the happier you are, this is something I have discovered personally. There is some form of fulfillment you get from giving or helping others. It shouldn’t always be about you alone. It shouldn’t always be about your family alone. Extend the hand of love and charity to people around you and see how happy you’ll be. When I say “give” it can be anything as long as it is positive. Give more care, give more gifts, give more of your time, give more money if you have the means. Show more love, you will find so much happiness doing it.
3. Expect less: The quickest way to become sad is to expect much from people. Whether in marriage, in your relationship with friends, acquaintances, colleagues, when dealing with people generally, expect less if not zero. That way if they give more, you are better off. Imagine expecting 80% from a relationship but end up getting 5% of whatever it is, are you not worse off? If you expect 5% and you end up with 80%, trust me you will be happier. Always apply the accountant’s principle of conservatism, it’s not being pessimistic it’s a realistic way of ensuring you’re guarding your happiness jealously.
4. Embrace the power in newness: Make a new friend, read a new book, go to a new place; learn a new song, memorize a new quote or scripture, try a new game, try a new cuisine, hear a new story, buy something new, just embrace “newness” in any form of it. It always comes with a breath of fresh air which is all you might need to stay happy.
5. Stay away from negativity: Life is filled with enough trouble, stress and pain you don’t want more of it. Avoid people, groups, events and environments that make you sad. Surround yourself with people who make you happy. As much as possible always position yourself in a healthy environment. Avoid unhealthy relationships. Also, some people are naturally bitter, and no amount of happiness you have can rub off on them, they will rather look for ways to drag you into their mess even if you’ve helped them or you’re trying to help them. If you give up your life for these category of people, it’s not going to change anything because it is not about you. It is who they are. While you want to be empathic you also want to maintain your sanity and stay happy. You should be able to identify these person(s) and environment and distance yourself. Hopefully, if these person(s) move away from you willingly, don’t go looking for them.
6. Forgive: You can’t stay away from negativity if you harbor it. Remember that brainy quote by Lewis Smedes “when you forgive, you set a prisoner free and that prisoner is you”?That saying is very accurate. Take it or leave it, when you are unforgiving, you simply imprison yourself; You cheat yourself of happiness and freedom. A heart that forgives is a happy heart.
7. Get busy: Get busy doing what you love to do. Exercise, travel, set goals and work towards achieving them, take up learning a new skill or a new language, get back to school (if you wish), read novels from your favorite authors. Get busy with your kids. Get busy doing what you love to do.
8.Stay off debt as much as possible: One of the fastest ways to lose your happiness is to drown in debt. The bible is right when it said the borrower will always be at the mercy of the giver. Avoid spending more than you have except you are making an investment. The lesser your debt the lighter your spirit. Debt robs you of happiness. Avoid it, live within your means.
9. Choose not to worry: I chose not to say “stop worrying” because I understand that it is hard not to worry. However, the truth is you need to stop worrying just because it’s not gonna take you any where. It will only deprive you of valuable time you should have spent doing other things like being happy. I used to worry even as a young child, little things would bother me. One day, some years ago while having my quiet time, I saw this quote in “Our Daily Bread” and that was the turning point for me. The quote went thus “worrying is like a rocking chair, it gives you work to do but it takes you nowhere”-Van Havner. That quote has since become one of my favorite life quotes and truly Dan Zadra sealed it when he said “worrying is a misuse of imagination”.
10. Last but not the least – Laugh a Lot: hehehehehehehehehehe…why do you think stand up comedians are making a handsome living within the entertainment industry in recent times just for making people laugh? Well, research has shown that Laughter triggers the release of endorphins, the body’s natural feel-good chemicals. Endorphins promote an overall sense of well-being and can even temporarily relieve pain (Source-helpguide.org “Laughter the best medicine”). Now that you know, don’t stifle a laugh, stay around people who make you laugh. Laughter indeed is a feel-good, happiness medicine.
I hope my points will help someone out there. Feel free to share yours.
Authors Bernard Berkowitz and Mildred Newman wrote a book titled “How to be your own best friend”. In that book, they concluded that as humans, we need to choose to learn how to be happy just the same way we choose to learn a new language or a new habit. Simply put, the choice to stay happy is a personal decision we all have to make. (more…)
Our special Rubies and Potters guest here at FamilyRubies today is Ella Enweonwu, a lawyer, a PhD research student and a health and fitness guru. We are honored to have Ella share her beautiful story with us.
Prior to this guest feature, we have featured several professionals and entrepreneurs in the “Rubies and Potters” section of our blog. We do this to promote entrepreneurship, the need for people to develop their skills and talents and still be outstanding in all other areas of life.
Ella is giving Rubies and Potters another unique twist today. Ella is reminding us that “it is health that is real wealth not pieces of gold and silver” – quote by Mahatma Gandhi
Rubies & Potters is a section on our blog where we bring to you great minds doing great things to keep you motivated and challenged! We’re taking time out to celebrate them and showcase them to the world in our own beautiful way.
Join us let’s do this together…
Good day Ella, where are you originally from and where do you currently reside?
I am originally from Anambra state, Nigeria but reside in the United Kingdom
What is your religion/faith or belief?
I’m a Christian, I’m born again When is your birthday?
1st January (Aww..she is a new year baby!)
Can you please share a bit of your educational background with us?
My early primary school education spans about 4 – 5 primary schools across Nigeria -Onitsha, Owerri, Maiduguri, Lagos and Abuja all due to frequent movements necessitated by my parents’ jobs. I had my Secondary School education at Federal Government Girls’ College Onitsha between 1997-2003. Afterwards, I proceeded to study Law at the University of Abuja, and then to the Nigerian Law School Abuja Campus and was called to the prestigious Nigerian Bar on October 5, 2011. In 2013, I went on to get a Masters degree in International Human Rights Law from Birmingham City University, United Kingdom and in 2015 I got my Postgraduate Diploma in Research practice. In the same year, I began my Doctoral Research in Human Rights Law (with focus on child marriage in Nigeria) all in the same University. I am also an Associate Fellow of the United Kingdom Higher Education Academy.
Why did you choose law?
To be honest, I didn’t choose law. It was not my idea to study law in the first place. I originally wanted to be a Doctor, a Gynecologist to be precise, but somehow that didn’t happen. After my first JAMB where I had applied to study medicine at the University of Nigeria, Nsukka, my folks somehow convinced me to switch over to the arts (long story). It was a huge switch for me but I survived. For me, it was either be a doctor or be a newscaster (I had a thing for the CNN news women those days) but my dad won’t hear of me studying journalism or mass communication as it was called. He insisted on a “professional course” and in the arts, that meant LAW.
Are you currently practicing? If not what occupies most of your time?
I do not practice law now mainly because I do not live in Nigeria at the moment and I have occupied myself with my research. Also, my passion for being healthy and keeping fit takes up my time too.
Ella, it seems like yesterday, looking back at how much you’ve achieved for yourself within this space of time is commendable. Please share your fitness story and how your journey to living a healthy life started.
I grew up as the chubby kid, chubby friend, chubby schoolmate…wait, who am I kidding? I was FAT! Lol. I was constantly taunted about my weight and to make matters worse I was blessed with big hips and a generous behind. It was called baby fat as a kid and all the adults then said “she will outgrow it” Well, I didn’t. Fast forward to when I had to stay at home for a year waiting to get into the university and the baby fat graduated to obesity. This time around people said “not everyone is meant to be slim”. At 17 years I weighed about 75kg and by the time I finished university at 23 years I weighed over 100kg! I am barely 5ft 3″ so you can imagine how all that weight made me look like – ROUND
Don’t get it wrong, I did try so many times to lose weight (especially trying fad diets and taking all manner of pills and concoctions) but somehow I piled it on again and I gave up so easily when I wasn’t seeing results fast.
Wow, what was the next step you took?
In June 2014, after series of tests in the UK I was diagnosed with poly-cystic ovarian syndrome popularly called PCOS. That was the first time I was hearing about it and I was truly afraid. Thankfully, I was told it wasn’t cancerous or deadly but it messes up with a woman’s hormones. Sadly, some of the side effects of PCOS is UNUSUAL WEIGHT GAIN and increase in appetite. I was told there is NO CURE for it and the only way it could only be managed is by losing some weight. How can I lose weight when the damn thing makes me gain weight? Of course, this meant that any effort to lose weight will be fought by this PCOS and I will have to put in twice the effort a normal person puts in. Phew! I wasn’t ready for this stress. I took about two weeks to think things through and eventually decide to do something.
When did your weight loss journey start specifically?
I began my weight loss journey in July 2014 weighing over 125kg and with a BMI of 49 screaming OBESITY. I decided I wanted a faster method so I went with the Cambridge diet –just another sophisticated fad diet if you ask me. This diet involves not eating any regular food but their shakes and soup. I really don’t know how I survived the 2months I signed up for but I managed to and lost a whooping 18kg just under 9weeks! Yea the feeling of victory was good and I was beginning to love the new me. But it was short lived.
Short lived? What happened?
In September 2014 I lost my dad suddenly. That loss was unbearable and I was in a huge shock. I became depressed and by March 2015 I had gained nearly all the weight back (about 15kg)
In April 2015, I decided to start all over again but this time the right way. I began to read about the best and effective way to shed weight and keeping it off permanently. I wanted something sustainable. From my mini research, I found out that the only sustainable way out of obesity is exercising and eating healthy. I started out by jogging for about 45mins – an hour, 4-5 days a week then later registered in a gym. I later discovered the benefits of weight lifting and I incorporated that into my routine.
So far, I have lost about 35kg and I am looking to lose 15kg more by the end of 2017.
Wow! kudos to you Ella,what do you currently do for a living?
Besides my research programme, I lecture part-time at Birmingham City University. I also provide online weightloss programs for ladies (personalized meal plans, workout guides etc) I also write on the side too. I run a blog where I talk about everything that catches my attention -http://redvelvetts.blogspot.co.uk/ How do you combine all these activities and still have it all together?
Hmmmn! Big question. Lol . Contrary to popular opinion I do not have it all together. It has been difficult combining being a full-time PhD student, part-time job, trying to lose weight full time and helping other people on the side. It can be mentally draining but I try to find a balance. Some days I find that balance and I feel proud of myself for doing so well. On other days I don’t. But I never beat up myself for too long. I simply pick myself up and keep pushing! In this life, we can only try with God on our side.
Tell us about a memorable day or event on this journey.
I think that will be the day I lost my first 50lbs and the second will be the day I finally got below 100kg mark on the scale. But in all sincerity, every day I stay on track on this journey is a memorable day. Ella, are you married?
No, not married.
Do you think being single at this time has contributed to your success story? If yes, how?
In all fairness I think so. With no husband and a child or children, I am my own boss. I cook what I want and when I want and go to the gym whenever I want too. I think being married would have made it a little different but not difficult or impossible. I have a lot of married friends who have lost weight even with kids. So being married is no excuse to pursue your fitness goals. Describe yourself in one word
GO-GETTER (we concur!)
What motivates you?
Fitness wise? I do not want to be the girl I used to be- obese, depressed, low self-esteem and shy because of my weight problems. I love the confidence I have now and how outspoken I am. I won’t trade that for anything. Career wise? Seeing young girls struggle/suffer under the shackles of age long traditions (like forced marriage) makes me want to do more. I want to help young women understand their place in the society and show them they have a voice.
Ella, do you have any mentors? If yes, who are your mentors?
Several of them. Every strong woman is a mentor to me. The likes of the legendary Oprah Winfery, Chimamanda Adichie, Maya Angelou, Michelle Obama, Ngozi okonjo-Iweala etc Your favorite life quote(s)
I have several of them. I’ll give a few:
You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them -MAYA ANGELOU
Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.- BARACK OBAMA
What are your aspirations in the next 5years?
A lot! But I want to focus on bagging that PhD degree, become a household name within the women and child rights’ circle especially in Africa and write a book for young women. What advice do you have for all the fitfams and aspiring fitfams out there?
JUST START. The time will never be right. Just start off and wobble/crawl along if you have to. You will eventually find the balance. You do not have to know it all to start off, all you need to have is your desire and passion to gift yourself a better, healthier and fit body. Also, do not look for quick fixes. They work but only temporarily. The old-fashioned way of exercising and eating healthy is still the surest and most sustainable method. It might take a while but it will get you there.
There are a lot of people out there who wish to lose weight, keep fit and adopt a healthier lifestyle but have no motivation, what words of advice/encouragement do you have for them?
Motivation is vital. you cannot lose weight without motivation. You need to find the reason why you have to do this. It could be for your kids, to improve your self-esteem or build body confidence. Whatever it is make sure it is something you can keep referring to for a long time to come. Motivation isn’t owned, every day you have to wake up, find that reason and keep fighting. Any closing remarks?
Thank you Family Rubies for the opportunity to share my story on your platform! Thank you Ella! You go girl!
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I wasn’t sure if I wanted to use the caption “an elephant, rhino or hippo” but on a second thought, I decided this will help you remember my message…
We visited a woman sometime ago and during the course of the visit, her ten year old daughter saw a fat woman on television and she said to her mum “mummy, why does she look like an elephant?” Wow! For a minute, I felt embarrassed for the young girl and her mum. Did we just hear her little girl say some other woman looked like an elephant? Anyway, the woman went on to correct her daughter, I heard her calmly say “you don’t even know what you will look like when you are that woman’s age”. The young girl was sober for a moment, probably lost in thoughts as to what she will look like when she is older. She’d never given it a thought, “Mummy may be right, I might look like a rhinoceros or a hippopotamus…who knows? :(”
Fast forward to some days ago, I read a post online; a lady was creating awareness about cyber bullying and how people type and say all sorts of things to others just because they feel the need to exercise their right to freedom of speech. It did not matter if what they say or type made others feel awful as long as it made them feel good. A comment on this post had read something like “don’t bother yourself about bitter, crude, rude, and unkind people, life at some point always has a way of humbling each of us”. And to me this comment said it all.
We will all have our life humbling experience(s), that thing that is part of you or that event that happens to you, is happening to you or that will eventually happen to you. It changes your outlook on life completely. It changes how you relate with people, it changes how you deal with people, it changes how you perceive people, and most especially it changes how you talk to people.
Some people have this experience(s) early in life, some very late and for some every phase of their entire life is a humbling experience. Finally, we don’t need to experience a humbling event before we realize that this life is as vapor, every step we take and every word we utter should be worth the breath. Once we have attained full realization of this truth, our perception and perspective of life changes out rightly. So the next time you are just about seeing the elephant there is in Mr A, you want to take a pause because life might just have a “hippo hit” waiting for you.